Get rid of fear once and for all

toe in waterI don’t know if it’s karma or a coincidence, but it seems like my Facebook feed is trying to tell me something. The message: Step outside your comfort zone – it’s where the magic happens.

Not that I believe in this stuff. It’s about as reliable as the advice I got from my Magic 8-Ball as a kid. Pure bunk, right? Superficially, yes. Dig a little deeper, though, and it turns out there’s more truth here than most of us would like to admit.

The roadblock is fear. It’s fear of failure that keeps us from moving forward toward the fulfillment of dreams and goals, from running a marathon to branching out into a new product line with your company. It’s that voice inside your head that tells you you’re not good enough, you’re not smart enough, you’re not thin enough, and on and on. It’s worse than the bully who teased you mercilessly at recess, because you can’t get away from it. At least the bully grew up and is now in a prison cell in Leavenworth.

If it’s impossible to shut the voice off, try ignoring it for a while. Put it in a suitcase and send it to the seventh circle of hell, where it belongs. Maybe even buy it a first-class, one-way ticket. Taking aim at a crippling fear is easier said than done, but doing nothing is worse. Inertia takes hold and we end up stagnating.

While I’m passionate about singing, for example, I feel most comfortable doing it surrounded by other (better) singers. But a mentor has been encouraging me to put myself out there and sing – solo. S-C-A-R-Y.  She’s been working on me for the last two or three months. I’d been rehearsing a song with her and she told me it was really good. I didn’t believe her. That mean voice told me she was just being kind, and I rejected her suggestion.

And then I started getting a flood of Facebook posts about change, courage and fears. Some of them were inspiring, while others made me want to shout at the writers, “It’s not that easy!” Still, I’m beginning to warm up to the idea of singing that song. Let’s say the jury’s still out. I could stay in my comfort zone, or I could take a risk and see what doors it opens. If it works out, it could be the impetus for tackling some other fears.

After all, what’s the worst that could happen? I could trip on stage and face plant, or I could lose my voice, or I could forget the lyrics. … Or I could stop the fear of failure rising within me and make the magic happen. Being open to opportunities and accepting what the universe provides is a worthy goal.

If you don’t have fears, you’re not human. What you do with them is the difference.

What have you done to overcome your fears? Was the experience a positive one? Let us know in the comments below.

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  1. “FEAR” something we learn as we grow into adulthood. As a child we come into the world brand new and full of all kinds of hope. Most of us know we are loved by someone. A mother, a father or the person that was responsible for our care. Our needs change as we grow. Think of the excitement and hope we had as children on Christmas morning. The hope of a new bike, dolly or a game we’ve been dreaming of. Then into our school career learning and growing successful with each passing year. Then the world starts to happen to us. Parents who don’t care, friends who disappointment us, jobs that didn’t pan out the we thought they would. The world in general, watch the evening news, you know what I’m talking about. The only hope I’ve ever known is my faith in God. This is what has saved me. Point being, each of us has something or someone to cheer us on. We need to look for that in our lives and run with it! Persevere, press on, don’t give up.

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